O.k., so I was grocery shopping today... with all 4 kids. Normally, this is a high-stress and loud trip. Today went particularly well. The kids were not fighting, they were not running around, they were actually being good!! I did have to tell them not to laugh so loud occasionally, but that was it.
So, there was 1 particular older man that we passed a couple times during our trip. I was almost done shopping and came by him again. This time he decided to stop me. I was ready for the "are these all yours?" or the "wow! they are being so good!" comments. Well, he had another thing coming.
It did start with "are these all yours?". I answer "yes" with that "I know, you think I'm crazy" look. Then, he continued and said...
"OH, I feel sooooo sorry for you!!"
Ummmm.... WHAT?!!! Yes, that is how he started, but it gets worse.
I tell him that I think it is a blessing to have my children and he says..
"Oh no, it's misery!" I look a little baffled, so he goes on.
"From the moment you have them in your stomach until you die, it is misery!!"
Please remember that all my children are standing right there with me.
"Someone should have told you before you got married not to have ANY children! One day, you will have one that doesn't want anything to do with you and another..." This is when I realize that he has children that hate him. I do find this sad, but I just can't get past the fact that he has the nerve to say all this to me in front of my children!
I just continue to tell him that I love my children and think they are a blessing. Apparently, he doesn't believe me and repeats most of the above conversation. All this is happening as he is looking at my 4, quite adorable and well-behaved, blessings.
I must say, this is by far the rudest comment I have EVER encountered about my children. I have had plenty of the "are those all yours?", "don't you know what causes that?", even the looks of "lady, your crazy!". But to actually voice such disgust over children truly appalled me!
As we walked away, my middle child came over to me and asked me why/what that man was talking about. I told her that he was a very, very rude man that has no idea how GREAT it is to have 4 children and I gave her a great big hug!